In the past five years, the “visualization” and “positive thinking” craze that promises to make dreams come true has left many jaded with disappointment. Why aren’t dreams coming true as much as they could be? Visualization isn’t a brain busting activity, so what gives?
The secret of making dreams come true is not just having the ability to mentally visualize a positive future or outcome, it also involves the dedication to focusing on the character changing process of goal achievement.
Everyone wants to have their desires and wants materialized. The dozens of clients I’ve had throughout the years have come to me with goals and visions for the future. The problem was that they didn’t know how to bridge the gap between their dreams and their present reality. Why?
It’s important to consider how people haven’t been taught how to tap into the present moment to access their potential in the here and now. The process of achieving goals is more important than the goal itself. Again, why?
The process of achieving goals is what transforms us. During this process, we are faced with the journey of questioning our motives, our values, our goals and are subsequently pressed with the challenge of having to act them out as life’s situations confront us each day.
The reason why people do not achieve their goals is because they want to avoid this difficult, often completely life changing process. Change hurts, it’s painful, and often lonely; it challenges us to act out of our normal character: We must face our fears, overcome bad habits, become more disciplined in choosing, time after time, our highest ideals while being humbled by circumstance. It’s not unusual to lose everything we have: our material goods, our relationships, or old values and beliefs about life on the path towards achieving our goals.
Just the sound of this type of odyssey makes us want to run for the hills – it’s not marketable and it’s certainly not appealing. Each day, the universe gives us the opportunity to realize our dreams, but because we are aware that we must go through the process that will ultimately get us there, we turn away, continuing our lives in quiet misery. The blind attachment to our present state of being keeps us from moving forward in spiritual development and from achieving our material desires.
So, if we want an exotic sports car or a mansion or a yacht, then we’ll have to have the income to acquire and maintain such things. Are we prepared to go through the studies, the work, the time and energy in order to acquire such things? Further more, are we prepared to undergo the spiritual journey that we’ll experience as we go through each challenge and phase of the process? These questions also apply towards spiritual goals such as being a better parents, a better spouse and physical goals like losing weight, improving health and overall spiritual wellness.
Monitoring our feelings throughout this entire process is also key to our growth because there’s no doubt that we’ll experience a gambit of emotions. We have to ask ourselves honestly, if I can’t be happy now, in this moment, during this circumstance, then how can I be truly happy once I have reached my goal? We fool ourselves into thinking that we’ll be happy once we’ve “made it”, but in fact, asking ourselves such a question brings us back to a sobering reality of self understanding.
It’s accepting the journey and welcoming the transformational process that makes us stronger in spirit and more whole as people. Once we attain our goals, we can look back and understand why and how we were led to each stop in the journey.
Embracing the journey of self transformation is what can make our most modest to wildest dreams a reality; it’s what can take us from poor health to being physically whole, it’s what can bring us closer to our dreams and visions of joy, and it’s what can bring us to enlightenment.
After the end of each coaching process with my clients, not only had they achieved a vast majority of their goals and objectives, but they emerged as changed people. No one escapes change without even the most minor evolution of character. They confess, the process isn’t easy, nor simple, but they always agree that their personal transformation is totally worth the struggle.
How committed to you to your goals are you? Are you willing to change mind, body and spirit to progress and achieve your goals?