Stop Running From Your Problems

Stop Running From Your Problems
January 13, 2012 Leslie Juvin-Acker

Success in life isn’t about having no problems. It’s about how we are equipped to resolve our problems.

It seems so easy to abandon our problems. To just dump them in the trash bin of life that will never , ever resurface, like some eternal abyss of forgotten problems. Unfortunately, my friend,  this is not  how life works.

At some point or another, it seems that the problems we avoided to resolve  in the past come back to haunt us in the present. It’s this karmic response to this fear we’ve got hidden inside of us, telling us “DON’T BE AFRAID, JUST HANDLE IT ALREADY!”

But no, we run from our problems because we’re scared. We’re scared that it’s going to hurt, that it’s going to take a long time, it’s going to challenge us, it’s going to make our lives miserable – even if only for a short time – and we’re scared that it means we have to face some devil (inside or out).

Here are some truths about running from problems:

Spiritual Growth Lies In Problem Solving

Sometimes, it’s spiritually challenging to deal with the situations we’ve gotten ourselves into. However challenging, a problem is an invitation to push our spiritual and emotional limits that can take us to places – however bright or dark – we’ve never before imagined. We’re pushed forward into conquering our demons and weaknesses.

It’s a guarantee that we are destined to experience a cycle of emotions: fear, anger, sadness, anxiety, joy, and elation. These emotions – however at times unreliable – are a sign that we must return to our values as a compass that can guide us through the most confusing times.

Through problem solving, we are challenged to choose between expressing our creativity and growing spiritually or condemn ourselves to repeating the same problems over and over again. Are we up to letting go of the familiar and embracing the unknown?

Problem Solving Takes Time

In a quick fix society, we tend to forget that most problems and challenges take time to resolve. While some problems can easily be handled by a conversation or by writing a check, most problems demand patience and dedication as we weather life’s storms.

Life doesn’t happen all at once. It happens over days, months, and years. Dealing with life’s challenges such as learning to live after the death of a loved one, living with or recovering from a disability, or repairing damaged relationships occur over time. It’s through conquering our problems one day at a time that we can savor each success, each lesson, and each step of the way.

“Everyone has his burden, what counts is how you carry it.” Joe Brown & David Brown (Merle Miller, scriptwriter)

How We Solve Our Problems Reveals Our True Character

How we deal with our problems, not our successes, is the greatest showcase of our character. How we choose to treat others, handle stresses, and cope with change reveals the type of person we want to be. Problems are opportunity to build character. We have the choice to be selfless or selfish, loving or hateful, mindful or thoughtless of others, careful or careless, hurtful or considerate and so on. Because of this call to our character, we can learn where we are weak and where we are strong and are continually given the opportunity to improve ourselves and the world around us.

We Can’t Solve Our Problems Alone

If there is anything that problems teach us it is that we can’t do things alone. It takes the cooperation and understanding between people to work through the unknown. Whether by getting an outside perspective, depending on the care or support of another, or learning from other others, people play an important role in our lives and in our problems.

Don’t underestimate the power of people in problem solving. Think about the problems in your life. Odds are these problems had to be resolved by talking with or getting the assistance from another person. We must learn to respect, appreciate, and have compassion for others. It is through mutual understanding that we people can correct wrongs and find solutions.

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