As a writer on a blog, content and inspiration can run dry sometimes and if it’s not that, it’s up to my discretion on how I choose to write about client case stories and other various interactions I have with individuals I know and meet. Sometimes, I experience really interesting stories, but choose not to post them. Often, I have strong opinions on various news and social subjects that I don’t ever write about on my blog. Writers know that making these ethical choices can be career suicide and can lead to a boring blog because, as we all know, controversy gets hits and it gets comments. For me, I’m willing to take that risk as a writer in order to be a voice with purpose.
What I choose to write on this blog is meant to be constructive and meant to serve my friends, family, former and present clients and perfect strangers. Each day, I ask myself if I have something constructive to write in order to educate, help and inform. If not, then I don’t write. For me, writing isn’t about getting people upset so that they are provoked into anger and into commenting. Instead, writing is a tool employed to serve others.
Additionally, being a coach makes me think carefully of the questions I ask clients and the observations I offer. My job is to listen more than I speak and when I speak, I better have something good to say. Over the years, I have noticed myself saying less and less and focusing more and more on saying what is important.
While I was on vacation in the south of France this summer, I laughed with a friend I see each year about how we barely speak to each other when we’re together. We just sit along the beach, quiet, enjoying the environment and each other’s company. When our husband’s noticed this, I just said, “Sometimes, it’s nice to be with someone who you can be quiet with. Believe me, if I have something important to say, I’ll say it.” She smiled at me and agreed.
Sometimes, it’s good to get things off our chest and to say what needs to be said in order to move forward. Other times, it’s best to remain silent so that we can listen to the cues of nature and life that help us find our next step forward. No matter how we choose to communicate, it’s important to consider how, what, when, and where we communicate our feelings and ideas and to ask ourselves, “I am helping or am I hurting?”
1. Excessive talk suggests ulterior motives or dishonesty. – Anonymous
2. Talk doesn’t cook rice. – Chinese and Japanese saying
3. The noisiest streams are the shallowest. – English saying
4. Utter not a word by which anyone could be wounded. – Saying (Hindu). In C.S. Lewis, appendix (1) to The Abolition of Man, 1947
5. Talk less, say more. – Saying
6. Think more than you talk, and talk less than you listen. – Saying
7. Well understood is well said. – Saying
8. Polonious: Give every man they ear, but few they voice. Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgement. – Shakespeare. Hamlet, 1.3.68, 1600
9. The chief effect of talk on any subject is to strengthen one’s own opinion. – Charles Dudley Warner. “Sixth Study,
3, Backlog Studies, 1873
10. As the stamp of great minds is to suggest much in few words, so, contrariwse, little minds have the gift of talking a great deal and saying nothing. – La Rochefoucaul (1613-1680). Maxims, 142, 1665, tr. Leonard Tancock, 1959
Source: “Quotationary”. Leonard Roy Frank. Random House Webster’s. 2001