My friend is looking for a new job. Being a consultant, she travels around the country, from one business to another until the project is done. Since she has back problems that are exaggerated by the traveling and long hours of sitting, she is in the market for a new position that allows her to stay in the city, closer to her infant son.
One afternoon, we met up for lunch. I followed up with her about a job opportunity she had mentioned at dinner over the weekend. She said she called the contact that morning, but wished she did earlier, but she didn’t dared.
I just loved how she said that, I didn’t dare. It was honest and revealing of her to say it in such a way.
It was funny how, just months before she told me that she wanted a job close to home within her line of work and when the opportunity presented itself, as if placed upon her lap by angels, she said she didn’t dare to call. She eventually got a meeting a week later, but what she said left an impression on me long after our lunch together.
“Faut oser!” I exclaimed. “You must dare!”
I immediately thought of the game Truth or Dare. It’s as if playing this game as kids prepped us for our futures to swallow our pride, our fears and anxieties and take a leap of faith. The game is all about revealing our insecurities, our weaknesses and our failures and gives us a chance to push outside of ourselves into unknown territory.
I imagined all of the times I dared myself to step out of my comfort zone, to think outside of my normal span of thinking, and to be someone different. Daring to go beyond has always served me. The times that I didn’t dare, when I shrunk within myself, only lead to unhappiness and distraction by thinking about the “what-ifs”.
It’s not about taking a chance or risk for the sake of taking a risk, but rather giving ourselves the opportunity to know ourselves in different ways and to experience our lives in new ways. When we take a chance, we are taking a chance on ourselves and seeing what we are capable of.
I texted my friend today and said, “You must dare!” She responded and said, “What do you dare to do?”
I responded with a dirty joke, but she asked a good question.
What do I dare to do?
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