We created ourselves as totally unique and that can, in full awareness of it, create (as sense of) isolation and loneliness.
In this dimension, we seek shared experiences (family groups, political groups, nationalities, business industries( to reassure ourselves that we are not alone. These things, otherwise known as constructs, do unite us in a stream of consciousness but they do not define us as individuals.
This is why some attach themselves to a group (experience) to attain a sense of identity within the collective consciousness. This does not have to be so…
To pull ourselves out of the identification of the group and even the creative self-expression of the self allows one to join the state of unconscious which defies the reasoning of both individual and collective consciousness. In other words, “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (consciousness),” Philippians 4:7.
Detaching ourselves from the collective conscious removes the thought patterns of such groups and impression of the shoulds and have-tos that trickle down to and affect the shaping of the individual consciousness. While cultural consciousness serves its purposes in building awareness of the self, permitting the thoughts of the group to define the individual consciousness and consequently the self-identity creates conflict, otherwise known as cognitive dissonance. What does the individual stream of consciousness thinks and believes in relation to and contrasting with the collective. The work that is done in my sessions is to be aware of both levels of thinking, while simultaneously accessing the higher consciousness for the overarching truth.
The work that is conducted in sessions is to achieve a perfect sense of peace and non-judgement done by physical relaxation and comforting the client that the individual identity will not be “lost” through the exploration of and disintegration of outmoded beliefs and behaviors. The concept of “losing oneself” frightens the average client, even though, paradoxically, they have sensed a deep self of personal loss as a result of attachment to self-sabotaging beliefs and antiquated behaviors ascertained from both individual and group consciousness levels of thinking. Having reassured the client of this process in which the truth, which does not exist outside of the self but within it, will reveal the true self the process can then begin.
Eventually, through consistent work and re-evaluating the “usefulness” of individual and collective thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors, the client then reconsiders if they truly “need” them anymore. Once usefulness has fallen into unnecessary, the client then can consciously release the attachment and thus healing and transformation have taken place. Detaching from outmoded behaviors and beliefs can prove difficult for those who are ambivalent of the healing process. Once again, “losing the self” is the greatest subconscious fear that blocks successful individual change, “If I don’t act/think/believe this way, then who am I?” Releasing the need for identification in exchange of being is the fundamental part of the healing process.
In summary, recognizing the role that the attachment to the individual construction of the self-identity, the desire of shared experience to avoid “being alone”, and the borrowing of group beliefs to create the self-identity and thereby releasing them is the fundamental process of healing the soul from “over identification”. While useful, when the outmoded identities and constructions are no longer useful, they become destructive, blocking of personal growth, and self-sabotaging in the attempts to create oneself anew. By rising above the individual and collective consciousness to a higher unconscious, the truth rather than beliefs remains to be discovered.